Family problems..I feel trapped and I just want out of here!?
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Q&A: Family problems..I feel trapped and I just want out of here!?
So I am 19, still living at home and hate it! I have not been given most opportunities and tools other people my age have. I live with my grandparents, who got custody of me when I was a baby. 4 years ago my baby cousin was born, He has a wacko mother so we are pretty much helping raising him. When he was born my life got put on the back burner and it turned into us trying to take care of him. I love him with all of my heart and soul and see myself as a part-time mom as much as I help with him. We have him Mon-Fri and usually on the weekends too(whenever my uncle (his dad) can’t watch him.I watch him too, Or whenever my grandmother needs to go to the doctor or when she goes to church and things like that..It is all me. He is a very aggressive child due to his mom not always being the picture and all sorts of other problems. Anyways I babysit him every other Thursday while my grandmother works. I do it for free. And so in return she pays for the internet and house phone. The only ways I have to communicate with my friends. If I don’t want to babysit him I get grounded and threated that the internet and phone will be shut off. So basically either I watch him or I am grounded..When he isn’t even my kid
My grandparents are pretty strict, I made some mistakes in the past. And pretty much mistakes are not allowed in this house. So therefore I have lots of restrictions on the internet(not allowed on when no one is home,she takes the mouse with her wherever she goes etc) And this incident happened 4 years ago and she still can’t let it go.
So if I don’t live up to their standards I am pretty much in HUGE trouble and blah blah blah.
I have never been a kid to rebel ,But for some reason they think me just stating my opinion is me being rebellious when really I am just trying to grow up.
I still don’t have my license, And finally yesterday they let me go get my ID (which I had to beg for for years) And all they think I want it for is to go clubbing (not true at all, I have to have and ID to get a job..which I can’t find right now)
She is mad that she had to pay the for my State ID yesterday..And she claims that I always say how I am an adult and I should have done it myself.
Well she is my only form of transportation, and I don’t have any money of my own. I told her these types of things are stuff parents should provide their child WAY before they are 19 years old! She said that is not true and it is all my fault.
She doesn’t see all the things I help her with, Nobody else helps her out like I do
I am pretty much in bondage and I really have no idea how to get out of here with no money,no job and no license
All that ever goes on here anymore is screaming and fighting. Over how apparently when I ask to get on the internet just once a day I am “addicted to it” Not true at all. All of America gets online everyday. It is nothing out of the ordinary.
She said she didn’t know she would be raising a 4 year old like we are now with my cousin.
I told her that she got custody of me first and that she needs to finish the job. She said nope that I made my life the way I wanted it and it’s my fault the way it turned out. She says I am an adult now I need to do it on my own BUT I HAVE NO WAY OF DOING SO! And she doesn’t realize that
I have no idea what to do anymore. My friends try to help but my best friend is in a rocky marriage and I hate to bother her with such problems as this.
I really have nothing and at times I feel like they want to keep it that way so I can stay here at home forever, My 34 year old uncle still lives here and he mooches off of them and they don’t seem to realize that…My grandmother treats me so differently from everybody else. She wouldn’t dare yell at my Grandfather the way she yells at me.
I am a 19 year old adult, And I am treated like I am 5
I realize the I am living under their roof and have to go by there rules but it is just getting way overboard… I have tried talking to them but they just laugh at me or yell at me and say “Stop talking back, do what we say, stop being rebellious.” And some of the rules are just absolutely ridiculous (Not allowed to use matches, I get in trouble when I cook sometimes)
When really all I want to do is be off on my on, Being an adult and having a life
There are so many other problems I could list, But that is far to many to type…
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Answer by shortbus
you are 19 get a job and move on it is not your job to take care of somebody elses baby so do what you need to, to get out.
Answer by Mista
Yeah you’re stuck till ya get a job and get your own place and pay your own bills.
My mom, when I turned 18 moved out of the house we were renting into a 2 bedroom apartment with my brother and told me I had to be out by the end of that month.
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